Most often, shame is seen through the eyes of others. We shame one another, and we do so when we think we are helping by our attempt to correct one another with our own perceptions of one another. In my experience, it is usually the pointing finger of shame that sees itself, instead of the one it is pointing to with its poisonous arrow.
Shame dwells on a lonely shadow-island bound by its illusion. Shame isolates, shame divides us. Jesus despised shame. In our Father’s eyes we have no shame because Jesus took our shame away. He is the Life-giving Spirit who lives in us. He is not shamed in the eyes of God, and so, neither are we shamed. If God does not shame us, then why is it that we shame one another?
Shame is the opposite of Acceptance.
According as He did choose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we be holy and unblemished before Him in Love, having foreordained us to the adoption of children through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will to the praise of the glory of His grace, in which He did make us accepted in the Beloved, in Whom we have the redemption through His blood, the remission of the trespasses, according to the riches of His grace. — Paul of Tarsus
Fear is a negative anticipation — an unfounded anxiety. Fear is expecting a loss of something, and that can be reputation, finances, friends, family, material things, even the love of another. This list is personal for each of us. At its core, fear is all about us.
Perfect love casts out all of fear. Fear cannot exist in Perfect Love. This perfect Love is the love that is good for enemies, this is the love of which I speak. The love for a friend will fail us, it is not the greater love. The greater love is that which loves an enemy.
Fear builds a wall to keep Love out. Fear hides all alone in the depth of a narrow cave, afraid of Life and afraid of Love. Fear’s greatest fear is the greatest love, because perfect love utterly destroys fear. This greater love has no agenda, no hidden intentions, no gain for itself, no trade and no bargaining maneuvers. This greater love pours out unreserved, unwarranted by those upon whom love pours. This perfect love cannot be measured for its value. This perfect love cannot be owned. This perfect love cannot be bargained with.
Fear is the opposite of Hope.
Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in them, and they in God. We have come to know and have believed the Love which God has in us. God is Love, and the one who abides in Love abides in God, and God abides in them. By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect Love casts out fear, because fear has punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in Love. We love, because He first loved us. — John
“O righteous Father, even the world has not known You, yet I have known You. And these have known that You sent Me. And I have made Your name known to them, and will continue to make it known, so that the Love with which You loved Me may be in them, and I in them.” — John